| Location | Lytham |
| Age | 13 years |
| Date of Birth | 26/10/1992 |
| Date of Death | 12/07/2006 |
| Visitors | 8,715 since 17/03/2007 |
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My beautiful daughter, Jenny Louise Sykes, died on 12 July 2006, aged 13.
Jenny was an adorable little girl. She was full of fun, a dizzy blonde, who would do silly things,
and had the ability to laugh at herself, and light up the lives of the people around her.
She loved humour, and would recite scripts from Little Britain and the Catherine Tate show.
She loved her family and friends so much, and would do anything for them. She loved children,
especially her little brother, and her little cousins, and my friends\' children.
She was very popular at school, and had many friends, boys and girls.
Jenny\'s carefree spirit changed in November 2005. A friend at school, Paul Moran, was found hanged
in his bedroom by his mum. He had been bullied at school (not by Jenny). Paul has a page on this
site. Please light a candle for a special boy.
A light in Jenny\'s life went out. She had always been a very sensitive child, who couldn\'t bear to
hear on the news or in the papers about any suffering, especially if it related to a child. I
remember how Hollie and Jessica\'s deaths really affected her deeply, though she did not know them.
I think that Paul\'s death brought home to her the fact that tragedies could happen to people you
know. They are not confined to people you read about in the paper.
From that day, I had problems with Jenny. She was in trouble at school. I referred her to
counsellors, as did her school. She knew how upset I was, and told me it was a phase she was going
through and that it would be ok. But, she played truant, was late home at night, and was smoking.
I was so worried. The counsellors had discharged her, saying she didn\'t have any serious problems.
Eventually it got better. She became happier again. I was getting my little girl back ....... or so
I thought.
On the 11th July 2006 she spent the whole evening with her little brother, playing in the garden
with him. They were laughing and squealing. They adored each other. When I shouted them in as it was
getting late, they had supper and went to bed.
The following morning, I found Jenny dead in her bedroom. She had died the same was as her friend
Paul. There was no note.
I am and always will be, absolutely heartbroken by Jenny\'s death.
The police came and took away \"evidence\" from her bedroom - diaries, the house computer, notes,
letters\", and the next few days were a blur of trying to fend off the press with a police guard on
the door, and trying to face up to the reality of what had happened.
Jenny left 3 brothers, Chris, Mark and Matthew, and 2 sisters, Laura and Sophie, who, along with the
rest of her family, are all absolutely devastated, and dozens and dozens of heartbroken friends.
At her funeral, the church was packed to the rafters. I was so proud. 13 of her friends lit candles
to commemorate each year of her life.
I was approached by people who I didn\'t know, but who knew Jenny really well, and they all said
they felt honoured to have known her. I found out that she often helped an elderly neighbour, by
running errands for her. I was so proud to hear such wonderful things about my little girl.
A donation of £1200 from well-wishers was made to NSPCC in her memory.
We had to wait for 7 months for the inquest, which was very traumatic. We heard evidence that Jenny
had been subjected to some bullying on MSN - someone had said to her that everyone wanted her dead.
This obviously preyed on her mind, but she never told me about it, and I will never understand why,
as we had a good relationship.
The inquest also heard that Jenny became a different person when her friend died. She could not cope
with the grief. She had made a shrine to him, hidden in the wardrobe where we couldn\'t see.
The inquest also heard that Jenny was prone to sleep-walking, and the estimated time of death,
coupled with the fact that she had left no notes, suggested that she may have accidentally killed
herself in a disturbed sleep pattern.
The truth is, we will never know the real reason until we see her again. What we do know is that it
was an accident. Luckily, the coroner gave a verdict of accidental death, which supported our
belief.
There are so many questions which remain unanswered though.
But, I get some comfort from the fact that nothing can hurt her anymore. She certainly could not
have coped with hearing about little Madeleine McCann\'s disappearance.
So many children have died just lately, that I believe my Jenny was chosen to go to heaven to look
after all these children.
If you are reading this and you have lost a child, you can rest assured that Jenny will have taken
your son or daughter under her wing.
I have tried to keep busy by focusing on jenny\'s siblings. Jenny\'s sister Laura was pregnant when
Jenny died. She had a beautiful baby boy, Josh, whom Jenny would have adored.
The truth is, it is so difficult to carry on when you have lost your child. I never appreciated that
before I experienced it. But what you don\'t realise, is just how many mums and dads there are who
have experienced it also.
I have been helping a local charity, called Donna\'s Dream House, which provides free holidays in
Blackpool for terminally ill children, a charity which Jenny would have loved to support. They also
run a support centre for bereaved parents, which has helped me loads. I, along with my daughter
Sophie and 2 of my friends, Helen and Bernie, have just done a parachute jump and raised nearly
£4500 for the charity. Jenny was a real daredevil, and I was always a wimp when it came to white
knuckle rides, so I decided to do a parachute jump to make her proud. I hope it did.
Now, I watch for signs from Jenny. People often see signs from their deceased loved ones, and for
me, Jenny\'s signs are butterflies. I could write a book about the strange incidents that have
happened relating to butterflies, often at times when I am at my lowest.
The following verse appears on Jenny\'s gravestone:-
\"A butterfly lights before us like a sunbeam
And for a brief moment it\'s beauty and glory belong to our world.
But then it flies on.
And though we wish it could have stayed,
We feel grateful to have seen it\".
Jenny was my precious butterfly. She was my world, and my heart will ache until the day I hold her
in my arms again.
Angie.
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Memories of Easter past
Keep them in your heart
Know that I am at my best
With wings that never part
Standing right beside you
With wings that span so wide
Covering you with so much love
You're beauty at my side
Every prayer you whisper
Comes with special glow
Know that I am with you
Everywhere you go
Especially now at Easter
With special golden wings
I'm smiling down on loved ones
My soul forever sings
I'll send a special Halo
To shine above you all
With peace and love my memory
My memory covers you with shawl. ♥
thinking of you Jenny with love ; on this beautiful easter sunday ; also your loved ones ; love as always Alison xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
JENNY
11TH APRIL 2009
♥ WITH LOVE AT EASTER. ♥
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If Only Our Children Were Easter Eggs
If only our children were Easter eggs,
Hidden safely in the grass,
We could search for them and pick them up,
And hold them within our clasp.
We'd have a heavenly Easter egg hunt,
All with baskets in our hands,
Searching with a broken heart.
Only WE can understand.
'Oh, look I found your child over here,'
'Hey, did anyone find mine?'
They are so beautifully colored,
And they sparkle and they shine...
These aren't your usual Easter eggs,
They each have their own special glow,
That comes from way down deep within,
Only a grieving parent would know.
We gather up our special eggs,
With excitement all around,
For the gift that we've been given,
For the treasure we have found.
We all now stare with wonderment,
At our children that have died.
We want to hold them once again,
And release them from inside.
But we all begin to realize,
We have to crack their beautiful shell,
The one that, makes them sparkle and glow,
The one they have earned so well.
We know we can't destroy their beauty,
And take them from their place,
So we give them an understanding kiss,
As a tear runs down our face.
One by one we take our baskets,
With our beautifully colored eggs,
And place them gently in the grass,
As we turn and walk away.
We look back in amazement,
As our eggs begin to sing.
We see them flutter and move about
'Look, our eggs all now have wings.'
Then the Golden egg begins to speak...
'Your children are safe with me.'
'You'll be with them when the time is right'
Together for all eternity.'
We stand there in a circle of love,
As we look up to the sky,
Watching our radiant eggs take flight,
Knowing our children didn't die.
Love Always Elaine xXx
thank you for your support
Although you are a friend of mine
and candles we exchange
I wouldn't know you on the street
and doesn't that seem strange? ♥♥
♥♥ You hold a place within my life
unusual and unique
we share ideals and special dreams
and still we do not speak ♥♥
♥♥ I picture what I think you are
perhaps you picture me
an intriguing game for both of us
for someone we can't see ♥♥
♥♥ So for this friendship we possess
we owe this mail a debt
perhaps the charm lies in the fact
that we have never met ♥♥
love to you and Jenny;;; Alison xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Beautiful Jenny
Good morning beautiful Jenny. Hope you have a nice day in heaven looking after all the angel babies. I just wanted to tell you that every morning when I turn on my computer and look in my garden your beautiful face lights up the pages. I think of you a lot and your mum and sisters. It must be very hard for them all losing such a beautiful daughter. Stay close to them Jenny and send them lots of angel kisses and hugs as they miss you very much. Love always Angela xxx
●♥● GOODNIGHT AND GOD BLESS. ●♥●
Sometimes when I'm very quiet
I can hear "The Flutter Of Your Wings"
The sound is like music to my ears
and it makes my heart sing.
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When loneliness and emptiness
bring not a sound to hear
You know exactly what I need
as you flutter past my ear.
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Sometimes when I'm very still
I can almost feel "The Flutter Of Your Wings"
Their feathery touch is like magic
and much peace and comfort it brings.
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When I am left with no one
to hug or hold on to
You gently wrap me in your wings
and your love I feel is true.
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Sometimes when I am all alone
and against the distant sky
I can almost see "The Flutter Of Your Wings"
It brings a tear of happiness to my eye.
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When I look around and find not a soul
who cares if I live or die
You flutter your wings up in the clouds
and I find comfort in the sky.
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You are my Guardian Angel
and when I hear, feel and see
This means you are close by my side
and are watching over me.
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Sometimes when I feel so alone
you remind me that I'm loved
My angel sent down from heaven
with much love from up above.
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The love and closeness I sense from you
is all the reassurance I need
That I am someone very special
and I will follow where you lead.
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●♥● LOVE JUDE.X ●♥●
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WHEN YOU WISH UPON A STAR,
THINK OF OUR ANGELS ,
THEY WONT BE FAR.
LOVE AS ALWAYS ALISON ;
BEEN HAVING PROBLEMS GETTING ON GTS ; MOVING HOUSE ; SO ON DAUGHTERS PC ; XXXXXXXXXXXX
TO JENNY AND ANG.
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I cried reading this. im so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. i lost a close friend through suicide and i know it doesnt get any easier. find comfort in knowing how many lives your daughter touched at such a young age.
another angel taken before her time.
Xxxxx
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